Counselling for family pressure, culture and first-generation life

The family conflict people bring here rarely looks like shouting. It’s quieter than that. It’s the call you rehearse before making, and the drive home where you say nothing and then can’t sleep. It’s being the one everyone leans on, and having nobody to lean on yourself.

With Jasneet

Jasneet Purewal is a first-generation South Asian counsellor in Surrey. She knows the pull between your own needs and what family, culture, marriage and career expect of you, because she’s lived it. You won’t have to explain your family to her from scratch, or justify why something bothers you when it “shouldn’t.”

She starts with the body, not the argument. Often there’s a part of you that learned young that keeping the peace kept everyone safe. She doesn’t judge that part. She asks what the fear is saying. Then you practise the actual sentence out loud, in English, Punjabi or Hindi, badly at first, until it’s yours.

Transitions nobody lets you grieve

Some changes come with a party, which makes them hard to mourn. A year into marriage, living with in-laws, everyone calls it the happiest time of your life, and you can’t say something was lost. Jasneet helps you name the loss first: your room, your mother’s kitchen, the version of you who had opinions at dinner. Then you work out what can be recovered, what needs mourning, and what in that house is still yours.

Other ways in

Madison works with difficult family dynamics and challenging personalities, including people recovering from narcissistic abuse. Chantelle works with family conflict, self-esteem and big life changes, and is our low-fee counselling option. If something happened in your family that was abuse, Jasneet also offers sexual abuse recovery counselling, at your pace.

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